Things to look forward to in June:
- Father's Day
- Spending time outside in our yard
- First summer in our new home
- Putting up our fence
- Home projects
- Planning our July trip
- Going on long road bike rides with my family
- Running the HEAT
- Moving my at home workout space from my basement to my backyard
- BBQ at our new place
Things to work on:
- Laughing more
- Changing up my hair
- Relaxing
- Giving myself more me time
- Time management
- My patience
- My friendships
- Letting the little things go
Things to let go of:
- Guilt
- Anger
- Fear
- Negativity
- Nervousness
- Judgments
- Anxiety
What are you looking forward to lately?
Happy June my friends,
Showing posts with label show love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label show love. Show all posts
Wednesday, June 1, 2016
Wednesday, May 25, 2016
7 Things Marriage Has Taught Me
In a marriage you have to work together, together you are stronger and will accomplish more. But like any team sometimes you have to practice working together. As much as I would love to say that working together comes naturally once your married - unfortunately it doesn't.
2) Communication is key
I don't know about your house....but my husband & I like to stay very busy and active. This means that I might not see my husband all day everyday so we have to communicate and let the other person know what's going on, where we are, who's responsible for making dinner that night, who's going to make sure they stop by the bank and pay the bills on time, who's going to be at home waiting for service call, ect. The only way a busy household can function effectively is if you communicate with each other.
3) Date night is still important
This is something that I like is so important. If your house is like ours and you are busy, busy, busy, it's good to take a night off together and go on a date night. It doesn't have to cost you a lot of money. Just staying in and having one person cook a romantic meal followed by a walk is nice. Sometimes you have to put the pause button on life and reconnect with your significant other. Catch up with them and ask how has their week been. Help them resolve any issues they may have stumbled across and praise them for all the hard work they've put in. I feel like some couples miss this step and they are so busy and wrapped up in what they are doing they sometimes forget to connect with their partner which can cause issues down the road.
4) Fight fair
Every couple has fights....if anyone claims they don't fight with their significant other than they are lying. A lot of couples fight differently, I know when I fight with my husband we don't tend to yell or throw things. We fight pretty civil but sometimes we get very heated and passionate about what we are fighting about and very hurtful words will come out of our mouths that we really don't mean. When you get into a heated argument present your side and why you are so passionate about it but also let your partner express their side. No one can win all the time - remember to compromise. If you find yourself at a dead end agree to take a 5min break - take a break and revisit the argument, sometimes you just need a few min to think about it and come up with an alternative solution
You are in this marriage together. It's nice to be appreciated for your hard work and effort so if you want your appreciation acknowledged then show your appreciation for your partner. Thank them for the little things they do that contribute to your household. Anything from picking up milk, unloading the dishwasher, mowing the lawn, washing your car, vacuuming, ect.
6) Life sometimes doesn't go as planned
I feel like this is the universes cruel joke. I feel like every time I make a plan something happens to derail us. Our vehicle brakes down, someone gets sick, the weather doesn't cooperate, the event we were going to gets cancelled. I guess after having an unpredictable life like ours you learn to let things go and try to laugh about it - I mean what else am I supposed to do? The old version on myself would have breakdown when plans fell through - the new me lets the little things go and moves with the flow. Instead of dwelling on the bad I try to problem solve and figure out what to do instead.
7) Support your spouse for who they are
My husband is who he is, I can't change that and nor would I want to. I feel in love with him for who he is and not who I wanted him to be. Yes he does things that annoy me....I'm sure I do many things that annoy him too...but those little things are part of the package and I love him for who he is. I feel that is it very important to support your spouse for who they are. Any goals or life dreams they have should be encouraged - never screw up your nose at your spouses dream no matter how out there their goals may be.
Wednesday, February 24, 2016
30 Ways To Show Love
But we must be doing something right - we've been together for 10 years 7 months and we've been living together for 6 years. We've had our ups and downs during our relationship but he's my best friend and I feel LOVED by him everyday.
I am luck that I have a husband who is will to put work, attention and compromise into our relationship. It really takes 2 to make a relationship work! We are a team - together we work on building our relationship.
Everyone says that after you get married romance dies. I don't know where that saying comes from because our relationship after marriage has never been better! I LOVE the fact that I'm with my best friend everyday and we have such an amazing life together.
We work everyday on our relationship and we like to find little ways on showing our appreciation and LOVE for each other. I don't typically share or give a lot of relationship advice but I thought I would share these little tips. It's nothing difficult to do and we LOVE doing these little things in our household just to keep the romance/LOVE alive. Here are 30 ways to show LOVE!
1. Pick them up a treat on your way home. We love doing random things for each other and it doesn't even have to be a big treat. Sometimes just a surprise coffee is a nice.
2. Put your phone down! Put it down and far away, get in some face to face time with your significant other and talk.
3. Learn to care about what they like. Take an interest in your significant other and what THEY like. It's not always about you.
4. Sit next to them as often as possible. We are those people that sit on the couch and just be together. We might not be talking or doing the same thing but it's just nice to be together as often as possible.
5. Keep the conversation about finances open. I think this is SO important. I've heard that one of the most common relationship fights is about money. Keep the conversation ongoing and open about money. Don't get mad about spending, just keep your spending within your means.
6. Say THANK YOU. Even when they do something small like vacuuming the house or unloading the dishwasher. Say Thank You and really mean it...trust me if you thank them for the small things they are more likely to do it again
7. When your signification other is working hard tell them you're proud of them. It's really nice to have your efforts recognized .
8. Get up to fed your pets so your significant other can sleep in (I don't have kids but this goes for kids as well).
9. Get ready even if you're just hanging around the house with them. I'm not saying you have to do this all the time but it's nice to get out of your sweatpants and do your hair/makeup and look nice just for them.
10. Do something around that house that isn't your normal "job".
11. Hold their hand when you're out in public. I'm not saying you have to go overboard on the PDA but show them some affection.
12. Send them an unexpected message saying "I love you", "Just wanted to say Hi", "thinking of you", ect
13. Don't be afraid to apologize and admit you are wrong. This is a tough one for me because I'm always right...but sometimes I have to swallow my pride and admit to being wrong.
14. Even when you live together date night is important. You don't always have to go out and spend a bunch of money. Cook for each other and have a movie night is a great way to spend time together.
15. Stick up for your significant other's actions and opinions. Be on their side...you're a team!
16. Give them a bit of your meal.
17. Ask them about a dream or goal they want to achieve.
18. Back rubs/foot rubs are always a good idea.
19. When you have a day off and your significant other has to work, go meet them for lunch or bring them a coffee.
20. Visit and talk while you are doing chores. We are constantly chatting when we're cleaning up the house or if he's in the garage working I'll put on my coat and sit in the garage for a chat.
21. Smile when they look at you.
22. Wash their car for them.
23. Slow dance in the kitchen...even if there's no music.
24. Make them something meaningful. A photo book, special mix CD, ect
25. I know we live in a world of technology but hand written letters are still nice. When I went to Europe for 30 days I left 30 notes for my significant other to read. He also got a special hand written note on our wedding day. He loves and keeps every single letter I've written him.
26. Look back at old photos together and reminisce.
27. Share a significant or memorable moment in your relationship "Remember when...". It's funny because sometime you will both remember different events in you're relationship that the other one may have forgotten.
28. Put their needs ahead of your own as often as you can manage it.
29. Kiss them good-bye before you leave the house AND hello when you get home.
30. Remember to say I LOVE YOU everyday. It doesn't matter how long you've been together....it's still nice to hear.
Remember, a relationship takes 2. I do these things for my husband and he does the for me. Share this with your significant other and give some of these tips a try! At first it might seem like a lot of work but trust me - put some work into your relationship and you'll see it pay off. We've made a habit out of all these small things, now it's just second nature and we enjoy showing each other our LOVE.
What are some of your favorite ways to show LOVE? Please share in the comments below.
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